Updated: Oct 20, 2021
I believe we should erase the concept of “the same” from our minds and our vocabulary. It doesn’t exist. Especially when we refer to the state of mind, body, spirit, and overall being of a human being. Jason Hardin told me early on when I met him, “If you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.”. I thought this statement was sort of harsh when he first told me. But the more my passion for self-improvement grows, the more I agree with Jason. We cannot stay the same, it’s impossible. So, if we are not striving to be better, and it’s not possible to stay the same, then we must be getting worse.
Typically, people don’t purposely get worse, but when we get better it is almost always intentional. Therefore, we need to erase the concept of “the same”, from our minds and our lives. There may be some that call this state of being “the same”, just maintaining. I know there are times within people’s lives when maintaining is the best we think we can do, but don’t fool yourselves. Even when you struggle from life's challenges, and you think you may only be maintaining because you can’t see the change, we grow internally out of our challenges. So, after your trials and tribulations you should have grown despite “your same.”.
I suggest we change our speech and our responses, to change the inner dialogue to drive our actions and our lives. When someone asks, “how are you?”, or “how you are doing?”, resist telling them fine or good. Don’t be afraid to respond, “I’m different than yesterday”, or “I’m different today”, maybe “I’m better than yesterday”, and my favorite, “I’m changed.”. This practice will reinforce the concept of constant change, because you are constantly changing, and if you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.
I must repeat myself, “the same”, is an illusion, it will never be true at any time in our lives. It will only be a delusion in the eye of the beholder.