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No One Is Coming To Save You



If you're not where you want to be in life, don't expect to be rescued. So many people live as if someone else is going to come by and make everything happen for them, but that is never going to happen. Sure, there's people out there that can help you, guide you in the right direction, or present you with opportunities, but even they can't save you. The truth is that only you have the power to save you.


There was a time not too long ago when I used to blame others for whatever situation I was in. I blamed my parents for me being born into poverty and for them being addicts. I blamed some relatives for not reaching out and taking care of me when my parents couldn't. I blamed the cancer I was born with for scarring me for life and killing my self-confidence. I blamed the schools I went to for not educating me on how to best use my natural gifts and talents. I blamed the government for creating all the laws I felt I had to break to survive, and I even blamed racism and White supremacy for stacking all the decks of society against me. Honestly, I blamed a lot of people and entities for good reason, because they indeed left me in some very bad situations. However, what I didn't understand was that though some of them may have been responsible for me being in undesirable situations, it was my own responsibility to still create the life I wanted. That's when I really learned the meaning of "self-reliance".


Self-reliance is the ability to rely on oneself to meet one's own needs and handle one's own problems. It's the idea that we are responsible for our own lives and that we have the power to shape our own destiny. It's about being independent and self-sufficient, rather than relying on others to take care of us. In today's society, it's important to understand that no one is coming to save you, and the power to change your life lies within yourself.

One of the main benefits of self-reliance is that it gives us a sense of empowerment. When we are able to take care of ourselves and handle our own problems, we feel more in control of our lives and our circumstances. We are no longer dependent on others to make decisions for us or to solve our problems. This can lead to a sense of self-confidence and self-esteem.

Additionally, self-reliance can also help us to become more resilient and adaptable. When we are self-reliant, we are more likely to take risks and try new things, knowing that we have the ability to handle the consequences. This can lead to more opportunities for growth and personal development.

Furthermore, self-reliance can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying life. When we are able to meet our own needs and handle our own problems, we are more likely to live a life that is true to our values and beliefs. We are no longer held back by the limitations of dependency, and we have the freedom to pursue our passions and interests.

However, it's important to note that being self-reliant doesn't mean that we should completely cut ourselves off from others or that we shouldn't ask for help when needed. It's about finding the right balance between being able to rely on oneself and being able to ask for help when needed. It's also important to recognize that everyone has different capacities, and that some people may need more support than others.

All-in-all, self-reliance is all about being totally responsible for our own lives, and having the power to shape our own destiny in whatever way we choose.